“Fear, worry and anxiety are not natural states of being,” she said.
It was quick. A flow of words and meanings in the midst of ongoing conversation. She didn’t stop to ponder those in particular, but I did, and somehow that sentence has stayed in my mind ever since.
Obviously, it was something I needed to hear.
But more than that, Katherine was talking about how the natural state for a human being is deep within, at the soul level, in sync with the universe and the divine and the world around us, the natural world, the order of things, the flow.
To wake up to worry or fear or anxiety about how the day will go or what the outcomes will be or will you have enough money or will you get new clients or any of the other myriad concerns most humans ruminate over day in and day out is not, says Katherine, natural.
It’s societally-driven. It’s a factor of the world we live in, the pressures we face.
It’s not natural to force structure and routine and order and control on the world around us. The natural way is to let the world flow as it should and adjust as we go along with it.
To have realistic expectations. To see things through a lens of good, always.
Because that is possible. I constantly tell my kids they can choose to see the good or they can choose to see the bad in any situation. When they get in the car after school and recite the ways their teacher or their classmate or the lunch aide wronged them, they are choosing to focus on the bad.
We all do it. A treasured mentor pointed out when I did it recently – I focused on one negative comment and not the 25 positive comments. It’s our tendency.
But what Katherine was saying is that, while we may be on this path, it is not natural. Our natural state is goodness. Is optimism. Is synchronicity and synergy with the natural world.
Not rushing to get somewhere or check items off a list.
I know when I take a day to walk through the woods or play outside with my kids or read a book or notice the way the sun comes up in pink over my backyard, I have no worries. I am blissfully aware of how good life is. What a gift it is. How grateful I am for everything and everyone.
It’s when I look far out into the future or stumble backwards into the past that I get tripped up.
Something to think about as we embark on this great day.